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ID#15
Message:

The Promises

  1. We will discover our real identities by loving and accepting ourselves.
  2. Our self-esteem will increase as we give ourselves approval on a daily basis.
  3. Fear of authority figures and the need to "people-please" will leave us.
  4. Our ability to share intimacy will grow inside us.
  5. As we face our abandonment issues, we will be attracted by strengths and become more tolerant of weaknesses.
  6. We will enjoy feeling stable, peaceful, and financially secure.
  7. We will learn how to play and have fun in our lives.
  8. We will choose to love people who can love and be responsible for themselves.
  9. Healthy boundaries and limits will become easier for us to set.
  10. Fears of failure and success will leave us, as we intuitively make healthier choices.
  11. With help from our ACA support group, we will slowly release our dysfunctional behaviors.
  12. Gradually, with our Higher Power's help, we will learn to expect the best and get it.

retrieved from adultchildren.org/lit/Promises.s on April 4, 2018


ID#39
Title: Promise Four
Message:

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ID#56
Message:

Promise 11

"With help from our ACA support group, we will slowly release our dysfunctional behaviors."

Fourth Step Prayer:

Divine Creator. Help me to be rigorously honest and to care for myself during this Fourth Step process. Let me practice gentleness and not abandon myself on this spiritual journey. Help me remember that I have attributes, and that I can ask for forgiveness. I am not alone. I can ask for help. Amen.


ID#57
Title: Step 4 Affirmation
Message: The promises of ACA are for me, and they are being fulfilled in my life. I am discovering my real identity. I am facing shame and uncomfortable feelings without running or acting-out. I have positive attributes that I am discovering. God,as I understand God, hears my prayers. I can ask for help.
ID#77
Message:

Chapter Eight Exercises

Inner Child Affirmations

  1. I love my Inner Child unconditionally.
  2. I will protect my Inner Child to the best of my ability.
  3. I will take time to listen to my Inner Child and to follow through on promises.
  4. I will integrate my Inner Child into my life through play, creativity, and spirituality.
  5. I will take time to become my own Loving Parent.

see page 328 of the Big Red Book


ID#107
Message:

Step 4 Gentleness Breaks

The ACA Fourth Step involves a balanced look at our family of origin and our own behavior and thoughts. The emotions, events, and self-blame stirred by this Step can seem overwhelming for some. As you work Step Four, we urge you to be rigorously honest, holding nothing back, but we also remind you to be gentle with yourself. Remember you are not alone, and you have not done or thought anything that someone else has not done or thought. You have character assets and abilities that help balance disturbing aspects of your life.

In Step Four, we ask you to balance any shameful or fearful memories that might arise with the knowledge that you have honesty and courage in your life. ACA is not an easy program to work, but your courageis apparent and show in working this Step and tegh Twelve Steps of ACA. Adult children have an inner strength that has always been there. dThat inner strength, which some choose to call a Higher Power or Divine Spirit, is with you now as you face this liberating inventory of your life. We suggest that you remain focused during this process, but take gentleness breaks and stay in contact with your sponsor or counselor. During this break read the Eleventh Promise of the ACA promises out loud. Also read the ACA Fourth Step Prayer. (You will find the ACA promises at the front of the Workbook).

Promise Eleven: "With help from our ACA support group, we will slowly release our dysfunctional behaviors."

Fourth Step Prayer:

Divine Creator. Help me to be rigorously honest and to care for myself during this Fourth Step process. Let me practice gentleness and not abandon myself on this spiritual journey. Help me remember that I have attributes, and that I can ask for forgiveness. I am not alone. I can ask for hlep. Amen.


ID#110
Message:

Step Four Gentleness Break

During this gentleness break, read the Twelve Promises of ACA listed at the front of the workbook.

Affirmation: The promises of ACA are for me, and they are being fulfilled in my life. I am discovering my real identity. I am facing shame and uncomfortable feelings without running or acting-out. I have positive attributes that I am discovering. God, as I understand God, hears my prayers. I can ask for help.


ID#112
Message:

Journey Through Step 8 Become Willing to Make Amends

I have separated.

Now I find the courage and strength to live in the world as a complete human being, capable of giving and receiving love, of creating out of a sense of wholeness.

My renewed inner parents reassure me by being consistent and loving parents. I carry these new parents inside me as the former were gently escorted away by my Higher Power.

These new parents remind me I am safe and loved.

I internalize the strength of these new parents. I feel securely held by a sense of parental power which gives logic and structure to my life. With this foundation and strength I am able to build a Self and create loving intimacy through my own sense of power.

The 12 Steps and the Serenity Prayer remind me I can receive real power and apply it in my life to things I am able to change.

My Higher Power is accessible and ready to direct my life in a meaningful, loving way.

I accept and reunite with the vulnerable child I kept hidden inside. By doing this, I begin to heal the broken pieces of my shattered self and become a whole human being capable of interacting in the world with confidence and trust.


ID#123
Message:

Step Ten reminds you to focus on the present and live in the moment.

{___your name here_____}, you live one day at a time in ACA. By living one day at a time, you are free to focus on yourself and handle the challenges of life as they come. Step Ten helps you avoid feeling overwhelmed by staring too long at the past or obsessing on the future. One day at a time you make progress in your emotional, physical, and spiritual life. Your past can be your greatest asset, but you remember to focus on the present. You begin to actively participate in your life and in the lives of others seeking fulfilling relationships. As the Twelve Promises of ACA state, you learn how to have fun and play. You fear authority figures less, and you discover your real identity. You feel more connected to yourself, and you believe that a God of your understanding is available to you. You are learning how to set boundaries and how to keep them. In relationships, you are learning to choose people who love themselves and can be responsible for themselves. Gradually and slowly you are releasing your dysfunctional behaviors with the help of your ACA group and your Higher Power. These are ACA's great promises, which are being filled among you daily.

{___your name here_____}, you are learning to love yourself and extract Love from within yourself to share with Life. Real choice means you give up control and trust your Higher Power to provide the love and help you need to live with flexibility. Real choice is a spiritual continuum beginning at denial and leading to self-honesty, humility, wisdom, and finally discernment. Step Ten is part of that continuum of spiritual discernment. You inventory your motives and trust your Higher Power, so answers begin to emerge for you. Solutions will appear. By practicing Step Ten and all the ACA Steps, you intuitively learn how to address problems which once baffled you. You learn to avoid being enmeshed in the unhealthy dependent problems of others. Gossip is less appealing because you don't have the need to become transfixed on the problems of others to avoid looking at yourself. You trust yourself to stand steady and to be patient. You recognize manipulation - your own and others' - more quickly and take a different path. You learn to inventory your motives before taking action. Sometimes you take no action which is the best action. These are the elements of choice and discernment found in Step Ten.

(from pages 150-151 out of the Yellow Workbook, Twelve Steps of Adult Children)


ID#126
Title: AA Promises
Message:

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ID#152
Title: AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) Promises
Message:

AA Promises

1. If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through.

2. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.

3. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.

4. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace.

5. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.

6. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear.

7. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows.

8. Self-seeking will slip away.

9. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change.

10. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us.

11. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.

12. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.

Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us – sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them. – the Big Book online, pages 83 and 84, PDF version. Audio version. Free of charge.

AA Promises page updated Tuesday, March 10th, Twenty 20. Keep Coming Back.


ID#156
Message: Adult children are survivors and have taken a lot of pride in that identification. Yet I think we all deserve a lot more than that in our lives. ACA is the path to offer that to us. It is not necessarily an easy path. At times, it can be scary, at times painful. But hang on to the vision of where it leads you. Pay attention to the process, but remember to have fun. Recovery is not about perfection. It is in the becoming that we experience the promises of recovery. Learn to validate yourself by becoming your own Loving Parent. Don't judge recovery or yourself. Acknowledge the little steps along the way. In doing so, you will move from shame to self-worth, from secrecy to honesty, loneliness to connection with self and others, and from silence to having a voice.
from the Big Red Book p xxiv










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